Why can't they tell the gender?

This is so very frustrating! I don't know if other parents have this issue or not, but I wanted to share. So in April and over last winter both kids were sporting longer hair-dos.

Here is Exhibit A:

This is DD and DS together back in April of this year (2009)

This is DS by himself back in April 2009.

Now that it is summer they both are sporting shorter hair dos.

Here is Exhibit B:

This is DD by herself, earlier this week.

This is DD and DS together. This picture was also taken earlier this week.

Now over the winter and even in April we were getting comments like oh what cute girls, or if out to eat what do the girls want. It didn't matter what DS was wearing he could be in a very "boy" outfit and because of his longer hair he was labeled as a girl.

Now that DD is sporting a shorter hair do she's being called a boy. Just tonight at the restaurant the hostess that sat us, took our drink orders, and asked us what do the boys want to drink! DH just looked at me in discuss. Our DD was wearing the same shirt short-sleeve stripe shirt that she's wearing in the picture above with a jean skirt with flowers and pink shoes. It doesn't matter she can be in a "girly outfit" and will still get labeled as a boy now that her hair is shorter.

It just frustrating! period! I just don't understand why there is gender confusion when it comes to my kids. Beside making my DS keeping his hair short and my DD keeping her hair long, I don't know what I can do to stop the gender confusion!

It doesn't matter what clothing they are wearing, people are just looking at the hair! UGH!